by Rupa Ghadi
The news of a 18-year-old girl committing suicide by jumping in the river brought in a sense of depression to me this morning. She is not the only one who initiated this step but there are several young faces who decided to bid adieu to the world without giving a second thought.
Our constitution gives them right to vote, makes marriage legal, they are authorized for a drivers license at this age as our constitution considers them to be matured going statistically by the number of years they are in this world. Are they matured enough??? These little butterflies are tiny brains in a physically grown body. This is an irreparable loss to the family and probably the parents will hold themselves responsible for the rest of their life making their living a hell.
I am sure girls and boys of her age whom she bid adieu also would not support this decision of hers, but alas our words cannot reach her today, the screams of her mother will never be heard by her, she cannot see her dad pleading her to be back home, old grand parents, uncles, aunties, friends, friend’s parents, relatives, neighbors, teachers, staff must be guilty of not recognizing this emotion in this girl.
Dear kids: my earnest request to you, there is no problem in this world that cannot be resolved by dialogue. Losing a dear one to accident and illness is not same as losing to suicide. Suicide leaves a black scar on all the lives left behind with a thought that may be “I could have saved this soul” Its leaves your parents with an unbearable grief at times which leads them towards depression/ addiction or even self harm. Please note their life will never be the same as it was while you were here.
I understand there is a generation gap and probably at times parents tend to react strictly, are stern about their ideologies or even rigid but please note your best well wishers are your parents. They are strict, rigid because they love you and are insecured about your decisions and they want the best for you. Probably with time they will learn to accept the change but I plead you not to overreact on their reaction.
- Please do not cease having a dialogue with your parents firstly.
- No mistake is worth your life.
- If you aren’t comfortable talking to your parents, approach your uncle /aunt / teachers/ friends parents (whom you think are easily approachable) or even a friend to help you find solution to your problem.
Your loved ones will never disown you just because you failed in something. Remember they have seen you fail eating your first morsel, they have seen you fail walking your first step, they have seen you fail talking your first word, they have seen you fail as a sports person, they have seen you fail on stage, they have seen you fail to achieve your best in studies, they have seen you struggle with relations and believe me they are the ones who always picked you up and they will do this even today for you.
What you are today is an outcome of your failures and timely support from them. So as Amir Khan advises his friends in 3 Idiots-always carry a photograph of your parents in pockets and watch that smile on theirs if ever get a suicidal ideation. Please tell yourself the reason you are planning to end yourself will not last for long but the smiles of these two wonderful faces will be lost forever without you.
You will then bid a good bye to these stupid ideas of killing yourself and realize your problem wasn’t worth the smiles that will be ceased….